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Kellie Eason RN, RM, IBCLC
Nurse, Midwife, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, Infant Feeding Therapist, Gentle Sleep & Settling Support Consultant
The moments are long, yet the years are short...
I'm sure a lot of you have heard this one before right?
If you haven't yet, you will soon figure out that children are a life-force that have the power to slow us down to meet their tiny needs...Whether its having to stop and pick up the twigs that they want carried or the meltdown that happened because we avoided their calls for attention earlier - you know what I mean?
As parents, we can make the choice to fight it and get ridiculously stressed, or to surrender and make the most of it. Isn't it ironic how we take care of ourselves really well when we are pregnant, but once the baby is born, we expect ourselves to launch into life full force as though we have never had children?
We all know that mum's are incredibly amazing at ensuring their families needs are met above their own. Society is amazing at telling us all what we "need to do" and what is best for us...
Please use this moment to think about your own expectations of yourself and what you can do to enable your life a more realistic representation of what it really is.
What can you do to simplify your life and make it less stressful?
What can you do to shift the high expectations that society has on you and what you place upon yourself?
How can you keep your own cup full?
How can you best enjoy living in the moment?
I think we need to tap into our own instincts and frequently 'check in' to see where we are at.
I think we need to be able to prioritise our own needs and give ourselves daily permission to do this.
We are allowed to:
The vogue house doesn't really exist - its just for show. Your family isn't going to grow up and remember you for the pretty almost perfect house you kept. They are going to remember the important moments that you shared....
Be mindful that the perfect parent does'nt exist -so how can you be?
Not all days are great - some days are completely shit and all the plans you made, are shunted to the wayside for some reason or another...
Moments of failure are also allowed and it is OK to say "sorry" to your kids for being out of line...it is what enables us and our children to learn about what resilience is......it enables our kids to learn that it is ok to stuff up, apologise and then move on...
It is up to us as individuals to forgive ourselves for not standing up to societal standards....
It is up to us to flip the mental bird at others when it helps us get by......
Don't be scared to put yourself first and say "No"
Be selective about whom you seek support from, unless you are prepared to hear what you may not want to hear or are told something that conflicts with your own personal values.....
If it is hard on us as mums, it can be just as difficult for dads too - don't forget to pat each other on the back and know that.....
You are doing your best
Best is "good enough"...you are growing tiny humans for heaven's sake!