Conflicting advice and confusion

I find it frustrating, when time and time again, I meet too many parents who are being undermined by others.  Why is it that everyone else is your child's expert?  They know how to tell you how to feed, settle, and get your child to sleep.  They know how to tell you that your child "needs to eat more" or is "too skinny" or "too chubby", you are being 'too gentle' and spoiling your children for example.  

Being a parent is hard enough as it is.  Until these "experts" are living in these parents shoes - with the daily challenges of sleep deprivation, frustration from child tantrums and defiance, to anxiety to having to juggle this all with having survive our busy world and constantly self-questioning if they are "being a good parent and doing what is best for my child/ren" - it is only then that these "experts" should judge and undermine parents - which in my opinion is NEVER!

I am a big believer in being non-judgemental.  Absolutely everyone has a story to tell which is deep, meaningful and personal.  We always need to remember that we don't know what is going on in the world of others, so why be so harsh? Why cause harm and upset to others?  There really is just no need for it.

Parents need good support from those around them.  Good support means - "I see you are having a tough time, is there anything I can do to help?"  These days parenting is harder than ever.  The demands of our world today and the attitudes and influences of others can do some real damage.  I see it way to often, hence this blog post.

I would really love to hear your thoughts on this?  
We all look at life through different lenses and I would love to hear others' perspectives on this!